Core Values

Houston,TEXAS!!! A place not famous of its achitecture, but definitely for its characters. And thats what i wanted to meet. Characters!!! So i was hanging out at a bar in downtown, in the hope that i will get to see some characters, and was having a good time with my beer. After couple of rounds, i came out for a light and thats when i bumped into a very old friend of mine, Shweta. She works as an Investment banker and hails from a small town in India. Investment banker with a job!?!?!?!? Must be pretty good at whatever she does!!!!. I was thinking to myself. .

It feels good to see a known face and feels even better when you get to see them outside of India. You get reminiscal..or maybe it was just me or maybe it was the beer!!?!?!?!!.

We had lot of catching up to do, so we decided to goto this place called "Flying Saucer". After our first rounds AND professional talks were over we divulged into more generic topics. or should i say SHE divulged into generic topics..I had just one topic in mind. Her status! Cuz last time i spoke to her, she was seeing some Indian guy(another friend of mine). So after we got done with the generics i.e. Indian Climate, impact-of-recession-on-India, Satyam-Saga, cricket I asked her about the guy. Being a True Indian, i didnt mind asking the most personal of the questions.

Dont trust me!!?!?!? Thats what the way it happens in India Boss!! We consider it a birth right to poke our noses into others lives. Thats the only thing that has no society divide. Anybody can ask anyone anything!!!?!?!?! You use a public transport, talk to the driver for a minute and he will probably end up asking you what is your salary , what are your marriage plans and he may probably advice you about whom to get married ..neways all that in the next blog.

So i asked her about the guy! To which she told me that they had broken up. From the way she was answering anyone could have sensed that it was still FRESH for her and obviously she didnt wanted to talk about it.

But who cares!!!? I wanted to talk about it! I wanted to know that details!and thats what matters to me...ME, I, MOI... So i persisted!! Obviously with a caring undertone.

To this she replied "I dont want to marry anybody who will go against my core values or who wont respect my core values".

I had no clue as to what these CORE VALUES of hers were. But it wasnt the first time i had heard that word. I have been given lot of this shit before too but everyother time i was the "Accused" and therefore had not counter-questioned. We just want to get it done with!!!!! The Argument i.e. ;)

But this time things were different, i was a friend. So i could have asked her lot many questions...and to top it all...I was @ my profound best..This was getting interesting... I had a smirk on my face and wanted to ask more on this...BUT she got a call from someone and had to leave...so we finished our drinks, fought for coupla minutes over the bills (another Indian thing). I let her pay but only after she had promised that we will meet again and next time she will let me pay. ( I have another chance!!!!yayyy)

On the way back home i was thinking about what she had said. And still couldnt found out what she had meant by "Core Values". And different questions that could make "Core Values" were going through my head. Like

Was that guy telling her not to work after marriage????
Was he making her sleep with his clients????
Was he beating her up after getting drunk ???
Did he wanted to shoot a porn video with her????

..But knowing my other friend..i knew he wont do anything of that sort ..It was just my pervert mind...

After i got home, fixed myself a drink, lit a light , i started thinking seriously about that shit. "CORE VALUES".

So i decided to ran a flashback on all the times i had heard of this word. And thats when i realized that its was a "convinient" word. A word thats been used by almost all the girls all the time. From matters of not working together, to not spending time together, to not spending time alone over the weekend, to a guy talking to his friends more than he talks to her or her friends, to a guy not being a party animal, to not picking her call cuz u were in a meeting, to not telling her that u had a meeting, to every lamest of thing u can think of.

This made me wonder

If we make our lives more complicated by bringing these kind of things into our life.

Does a work location matter more than a loving partner????!?!???!

Isnt just the spirit and hope to make a relationship enough for both the partners to sail through ..

Or Maybe I just dont have any values left to write about this topic