Vicious Circle of life

Our First post got us contrasting reviews. Apparently we’ve stepped on the wrong nerve. While our female friends trashed it outrightly the male population enjoyed the post…and in a chorus they sang “the truth yet we need to hide it”. (Told to us by Pavan who wanted us to change his name as he didn’t wanted his GF to see his true colors..All the best dude..remember I’m just a call away and more importantly I’ve got an extra room @ my apartment).

So this makes me wonder as to How big the divide is ?!?!?!?!? And where does it start!!???

We 3 are no counselors and are definitely not trying to tell you how to live your life. But its just that we have seen enough life and have been in and out of many relationships. (Don’t know if it’s a good thing or bad thing) But like everyone we have learnt and moved on. We have learnt from our mistakes, we have learnt from others mistakes and we have learnt from movies..so here is what I would like to share with you. To Agree or To Disagree is up to you.

Like any other thing in life, any relation too is based on physics & chemistry (P&C) of life(Not mentioning biology explicitly cuz we got under-age audience too). So just like P&C you have phases in life too.

Now based on personal experiences(most of them “first hand”), we have classified life into 5 Phases. Not everyone gets to see all the phases and not everyone can handle the phases(but the ones who do survive write blogs?????!????!??? LOL!).

Phase1 : My Favorite. I guess its everybody favorite. It’s the phase when you are trying to learn things about each other. It’s the time when you literally turn into a freak, cuz u actually finish ur work in a supersonic way. It’s the time when you give up all ur passions. Passions like sports, TV, porn movies...everything cuz all you want to do is talk to each other. It’s the time when you always carry gum and rubber with you. It’s the time when you don’t mind getting up in the middle of night and certainly don’t mind listening “Can you stay connected with me, cuz I just heard some noise in the other room” . It’s the time when you introduce the new person in your life as “a very good friend” and deny any linkups :). It’s the time when your parents start complaining that you have changed and don’t listen to them anymore. It’s the time when you wish you had more than 24hours in a day. It’s the time which you wish could last forever.

Too bad....just like everything this too comes to an end. Personally I call it a PRETENTIOUS phase where in both the parties want to put their right foot forward and at times(not all the times) they pretend to be someone who they arent. Its like testing the ground, where you want to talk about almost everything. But there are some taboo topics too. SEX is one. Family/Hygiene is another. You don’t want to tell each other how experienced you are? Or what do you fantasize. You definitely don’t want to tell for how many days you haven’t brushed or had a shower(what are gums and Deo’s for).

Generally people don’t want to talk about these topics but even if you have, no need to worry my friend, for we have 2 golden words with us “JUST KIDDING”

While some (a small portion) people get disheartened and consider this the end of their journey, thereby going directly to phase5, some others (most of them) dare to venture into phase2.

They don’t say “Love is blind” for nothing, do they????

Phase2 : In case everything went fine in phase1 for you, you probably wont get to know the arrival of phase2. It’s actually an extension of Phase1. So much so that its difficult for you to know that you are in phase2. But this is the phase that you would curse urself if you sit and think of the questions who have answered.(obviously after this phase has gone). This is the phase when you actually open up and talk realistically. This is the phase where you give each other nick names. Nick names like chweetu/chweeti, shona baby, Jaanu or even Raj ;). This is the phase where you actually WANT to ask questions like "Khaana Khaya???" or "Dawai khaai time pe??". This is the phase where you don’t care about anything and announce your relation to everyone. This is where u turn down invites from your friends for a party/movie/outing cuz all you want to do is spend time with each other. This is the phase when you exchange email pwd’s ( cuz u want to show that U don’t want to keep any secrets from each other). This is the phase where most of the guys strike gold(read between the lines) and this is when girls know that they r safe with the guy in question.

Phase3 : Phase3, the Testing times. This is the where you start getting out of the imaginary world you have been living in all this while and start getting a reality check. This is where you start “wishing”. You wish things were different. You wish you hadn’t “gone with the flow”. This is where you wish life wasn’t monotonous and wish it was lil more adventurous. This is where you start missing your friends. This is where you call your friends and start going out in “groups” again. This is where you will initially hear the everfamous line "You dont care about me anymore". But this is not it. Its a phase which puts you in lot of jeopardy. The question starts coming to your mind. The question which you thought will never arise with him/her. "To stay or not to stay??!?!?!". Welcome to Phase4- The Begining of the End

Phase4: This is the worst of them all. Cuz this is when the "showdown" begins. This is where the daggers come out. And fortunately or unfortunately the catalyst in this phase is often a 3rd party. A person(him/her) with whom you start sharing some of your life. The sharing part actually begins in stage3 and then it spills over to stage4, but on a more prominent side. This is the phase which again differs between men/women. While guys choose a rather LOUD way of expressing Remorse/Betrayal/Pain, girls go for a subtle but effective approach. For guys it goes anywhere between Cutting the wrists to getting drunk and calling(read abusing) her to writting blood soaked letter, its generally sleeping pills to secluding oneself from the society for girls. You change your phone numbers. You even change your email id's. You want to change everything about you. Everything that reminds you of his/her. Did i say it was the worst of them all??!?!???

Phase 5: Everything has fallen apart. You ARE devastated. Nobody likes you anymore(Well, thats what you start thinking at that point of time). Suddenly you become your biggest critic. Your friends still like you, they want to be with you but "I-dont-want-any-sympathy" wont let you socialize with people. The only person you talk to is the so called "3rd party", cuz u feel that she/he has seen you through thick and thin. And thats when you realize that you have to grab life with both hands and make the most out of it. So you dare to venture out again...so you start hanging out with people. Your friends try to hook you up but the problem is you try to find similarities in the new him/her. Especially if this was your first breakup. Maybe cuz you genuinly miss them or maybe cuz every body is the same.

Its a vicious circle, just when you thought it was over, things will come to haunt you again. The bible says "What goes around, comes around".

Curtains Down!!!!